tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81600456253342266632024-03-13T15:36:53.342-07:00What a long, strange trip it's been...Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.comBlogger305125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-25739698808473955182015-09-15T23:59:00.001-07:002015-09-16T00:00:44.636-07:0012 am ramblings...It's 12:30am on a Wednesday, I had way too many Mountain Dews today and I can't sleep.<br />
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So here I am…rambling. Oh, and also eating alfredo pasta.<br />
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Matt is out of town and it's crazy but even though I am surrounded by children, I have never felt more alone.<br />
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I want to be the kind of person that can sit comfortably alone with my own thoughts. I can't. Or I don't want to. I'm definitely not comfortable being alone with myself. I want to change this!<br />
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Over the past few weeks, my mama has been heavy on my mind. I was sitting at a sculpture park last week and a teenage boy and two adults walked by with heavy camera gear. I stopped and stared (because I'm a nosy creature) and it turns out they were shooting the teenage boy's senior pictures.<br />
It flashed me back to when my senior pictures were shot- my mom was there, of course! She helped me pick out clothes, did my makeup and my hair and told me again and again how beautiful I was while simultaneously cracking jokes so I would smile. I had completely forgotten those moments, hadn't thought of them since she died, until that very second I saw this group at the sculpture park.<br />
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With the memories, comes the grief. Oh, fuck does it hurt! 13 years later and I still want her back. I was robbed, plain and simple and it fucking sucks.<br />
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I want her to know my kids. They don't know it but I sure feel a void missing from their and MY lives! She would have been a fantastic grandmother! I wonder what they would have called her. I know she wouldn't have missed a beat with my bonus kiddos- that she would have accepted and loved them as her own. I know this because that is what she did with my little sister (her dad married my mom). She made things special for my sister, Brittany. She remembered little details. She made people feel at ease, knew how to make them smile.<br />
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I find that when I do things lately, I do things to make my mama proud. Today, for instance I was quite productive. Cleaned out my disgusting fridge, swept the floor, cleaned the kitchen, made a billion phone calls to get Mason cleared to resume normal activity at school and swimming ( he sustained a concussion when he fell at school 2 weeks ago), went grocery shopping, mailed a package, made dinner, did the bedtime routine, and made sure at the end of it all, my kids heard, "I love you" one last time before they closed their eyes to dream.<br />
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I know she would have been proud of me today- for making the time to read with my children when all I wanted to do was crawl in bed, for getting the grocery shopping done early so I didn't have to take 3 kids with me ( yay for all day school for all 5 kids!) and so when they ARE home, I can spend that time with them. It's the little things I do that carry on what she gave me- which is how to be an amazing mother, just like her. As much as it fucking sucks, I guess that's what it is all about- carrying on her legacy.<br />
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My belly is full, my brain is tired, and it's time for bed. Don't worry, I have many more memories to share. It's good to be back.Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-62531686944101733232015-08-21T10:41:00.000-07:002015-08-21T10:42:22.698-07:00Let's catch up, why don't we?!Well, they are off!<br />
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I struggled with my depression and anxiety a lot this summer. I suppose I have some guilt about the fact that we didn't do as much as I would have liked, due to these struggles. It's pretty hard to get kids ready and all the stuff you need to leave the house when you are trying to focus on not having a panic attack and breathing. </div>
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I get frustrated that this is my struggle. I get tired of taking pills everyday. I get tired of having to explain to those I love why I am (at times) not able to go places, get certain things done, be all that I want to be. </div>
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My anxiety reached a head about 10 weeks ago, the same time that things were hard-hard-hard in my marriage. We are working on it. It's a constant work in progress. Marriage is not for the faint of heart. </div>
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1. I started taking one of my anxiety meds, Buspar during the day too, instead of just at night. </div>
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2. I took a 20 min walk yesterday and will be doing that daily. </div>
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3. I made an appointment with a counselor for my mental health issues and personal barriers I need help overcoming. </div>
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4. I have gained a significant amount of weight on top of the weight I already needed to lose, due to my medications and bad choices. I have started the process of having a weight loss surgery done and have my first appointment with a bariatric surgeon coming up in September. </div>
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I'm proud of myself for the steps I have taken. I am going to start using this blog again- if only for a place to clear my head and just write. It's truly cathartic. </div>
Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-38695442367417368852014-02-04T11:06:00.001-08:002014-02-04T11:08:35.556-08:00Tell me about your life Tuesday!I have been battling with headaches for the past few days. I have another one right now and typing is distracting me from the pain.<br />
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"Ow, ow, fuckity ow"<br />
(the one who knows what movie this is from is my is my new best friend)<br />
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I had an interview at Starbucks yesterday to be a barista. I was very nervous! I stumbled over my words a couple times but other than that, I think I did pretty well. I find out if I am hired by tomorrow. I need something to get me out of my house, and make some money. Sugar Mama right here. ;)<br />
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There are only 6 months left until my Theo is in full day kindergarten. I am really trying to cherish time with just the two of us at home-it is going to be so quiet come August. I plan to be either working or going to school or both once there are no little people under my care during the day. I have to say I am pretty excited about this new stage of life too!<br />
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I am eating a delicious pear, drinking my almond milk with a little bit of coffee and brown sugar (try it, it's UH-MAAZING!), and thinking just how lucky I am to have this life I do.<br />
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!! It's Tuesday. Tell me about YOUR life !!Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-77211297444322960952013-11-18T17:06:00.001-08:002013-11-18T17:09:33.981-08:00a 'nuggly Monday.I head upstairs with my sweet four year old boy, Theo, for his nap.<br />
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He lays his head down, then sits right back up.<br />
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"Mama- let's 'nuggle."<br />
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Dishes wait for me. Laundry needs to be done. The house could use a thorough vacuuming.<br />
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Instead, I 'nuggle.<br />
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<b>And it's worth a dirty house. So worth it. </b><br />
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So incredibly worth feeling my son slowly fall asleep while my arms comfort him.<br />
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And with those moments of closeness with my baby boy, I no longer have a case of the Mondays.<br />
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<b>Monday is beautiful today. </b><br />
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<br />Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-57811490732544217852013-07-30T10:56:00.002-07:002013-07-30T10:56:20.947-07:00therapy is therapeutic. imagine that. Confession: I am seeing a therapist and I love her!! <div>
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Then I started to just feel really unhappy. Unfulfilled. I needed some direction in my life. My heart was yearning for change and growth. </div>
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I am in a really good place, and learning to accept me for who I am- the good and the "bad".</div>
Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-54075714517153823502013-04-04T08:47:00.000-07:002013-04-04T08:47:03.086-07:00boys and chaos and trashed house, oh my! We are on Day 4 of Spring Break in this here house.<br />
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Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-21491699514144212282013-03-27T08:54:00.000-07:002013-03-27T08:55:02.661-07:00I hate March.<b>The 27th of March is an odd place for me. </b><br />
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My mother's birthday falls on the 26th of March and she left this world on the 28th of March. This year, I decided we needed to celebrate her birthday. I had some drinks, like I would have done with her. I planned to make cupcakes, but too late in the day, I realized I didn't have everything in the cupboards and fridge I needed for a cupcake endeavor. Despite that, I felt genuine happiness yesterday in thinking of her on the day that brought her spirit into this world.<br />
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In years past, this month of March has brought with it pain. Before my brain even realizes it's March, my spirit knows. It remembers the hard, HARD moments of the year 2002. It plays over and over the <a href="http://nicoolmama.blogspot.com/2010/06/goodbye-mom-part-one.html">scenes of her life ending.</a> This brings me so much sadness and in my brain, March is also known as <b>The Month Of Tears.</b><br />
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This year, it is as if the tears are stopped up. I want to cry, to feel that release and yet, I had not been able to. As Matt and I were getting ready to go to bed, I suddenly began to cry as if my life depended on it. My heart certainly did. All of the emotions of the day suddenly flooded out their release. It felt good to cry. It also felt really good to say goodbye to yesterday.<br />
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Then came the 27th.<br />
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The 27th is the day my mama was admitted into the Hospice Unit of the hospital, and the day we said our last goodbyes, as my mother was put into a medication induced coma. My family and I were told that it would not be long before she passed away, and yet she kept fighting. This day represents a day of waiting between life (her birthday) and the next day, when she lost her fight with lung cancer.<br />
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I have told myself over and over that these few days are just that-<b>days</b>. I tell that to my heart and yet it does not believe me. The pain is fresh in this week, every year.<br />
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I miss her scrambled egg breakfast creations.<br />
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I miss the way she threw her entire head back when she laughed.<br />
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I miss the relationship I had with her- the way she loved me, the way she <b>knew</b> me.<br />
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I miss being able to talk to her about anything and never feeling judged.<br />
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her smell<br />
watching her mother myself and my brother<br />
how she always inspired me to be a better version of myself<br />
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This day is the in-between of it all, and it sucks.<br />
I ache to share my present life with her.<br />
I remember her- what she taught me, what she showed me, how she loved me.<br />
That is how I get through.<br />
<b>Still, I hate March.</b>Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-80580653567896104022012-12-30T15:04:00.001-08:002012-12-30T15:05:20.599-08:00my life rocks. This is the only picture I took on Christmas Day.<br />
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<b> </b>This is my niece, Ryan. Isn't she gorgeous?!<br />
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We are in the middle of Matt's 2 week staycation extravaganza!<br />
AKA We might have strep (again!) and the house is just now getting picked up after Christmas. :)<br />
Despite the germs, I have loved every minute of having my lovey home. I miss this bearded fella while he is at work.<br />
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Boys have been loving their break from school when Mom's new everyday response is, "Pajamas? Why not?"<br />
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Pajamas also mean robes and any accessories we can find.<br />
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There was even one day when Mason & Jack cleaned the kitchen! Jump back!<br />
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And of course, life wouldn't be complete without my Daffy Laffy Taffy.<br />
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Hi! I am from Amish land and this is my sidekick, Meow.<br />
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This is how she looks at me 85% of the time.<br />
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Life is good, Christmas was grand and our family is really looking forward to the new year! <br />
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Will is thankful for games, birthdays, and cow racing. Makes perfect sense to me.Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-85426131071027624132012-11-14T09:47:00.000-08:002012-11-14T09:50:11.992-08:00rambling for 200, Alex. I wish I knew how it all ends.<br />
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Love, Mama</div>Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-77087075595712874112012-07-04T14:03:00.004-07:002012-07-04T14:04:29.460-07:00Cupcakes make the world a better place!Lessons learned during red, white, and blue cupcake endeavor:<br />
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3. Do not count on the box of cupcakes that SAY they will make 24, actually making 24. Barely made 12.<br />
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5. Cupcakes are a delicious snack, even at 2pm.Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-28370237561666403062012-07-04T09:36:00.001-07:002012-07-04T10:44:16.061-07:00RED!WHITE!andBLUE!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: red;">Happy </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: blue;">fourth</span>of<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: red;">july!!!!</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">The diapers soaked a little longer,<br />The odor grew a little stronger.<br />The crumbs I spilled the day before<br />Are staring at me from the floor.<br />The fingerprints there on the wall<br />Will likely be there still next fall.<br />The dirty streaks on those windowpanes<br />Will still be there next time it rains.<br />Shame on you, you sit and say,<br />Just what did you do today?</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I held my son until he slept,<br />I comforted my toddler while he wept.<br />I played a game of hide and seek,<br />I squeezed a toy so it would squeak.<br />I pulled a wagon, sang a song,<br />Taught a child right from wrong.<br />What did I do this whole day through?<br />Not much that shows, I guess that's s true.<br />Unless you think that what I've done,<br />Might be important to someone<br />With deep blue eyes and soft brown hair,<br />If that is true... I've done my share.</span></div>
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I am as classy as they come. </div>Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-49746782064382521012012-06-22T11:36:00.000-07:002012-06-22T11:37:35.831-07:00Hello mountains...here we come!Summer has happened since the last time I posted, and man is it glorious!!<br />
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No more driving Mason 30 minutes each way to school.<br />
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This weekend, we are off to a family reunion in the mountains! We have kind of been hermits the last week so it will be nice to get out in the mountain air, visit with family, and just be. The amount of stuff I have packed for our family of 7 is completely ridiculous, and I am not even done.<br />
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So proud of Daffy Duck! 10 years old and taking on a 42 mile bike ride!</div>
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And off they rode!!</div>
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I am looking forward to a great weekend with my family, immediate and extended. </div>Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-4602093775254842832012-05-30T15:42:00.001-07:002012-05-30T15:42:48.647-07:00our day, summarized.This morning I hit and killed a bird while driving. :( In my defense, it was fluttering after a moth in the street and by the time I realized it wasn't moving, it was too late.<br />
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I was on my way to meet some friends at our local park. I promised my little boys park play and a train ride on the train that chugs around the park.<br />
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However, shortly after arriving, the entire left side of Theo's face became puffy and splotchy and his eye and left nostril were continuously leaking. It was clear he was having an allergic reaction. My godmom (who was there with us) thankfully drove the 5 minutes to her house and grabbed some Benadryl for poor little Theo.<br />
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Once the Benadryl kicked in, my baby boy was ready for a nap. So I dragged a screaming Will away from his promised train adventure and managed to get both my little dudes buckled in their seats.<br />
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We came home, where the 4 and 2 year olds went straight down for a nap. Mason's dad picks him up from school on Wednesdays so I had no plans for 3 hours. My sink was full of dishes. My living room is cluttered with mess and our bathrooms need a good scrubbing. There is laundry waiting for me, shelves to dust in the little's room and a desk to organize in my own room.<br />
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So I took a nap. :)<br />
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The house will still be waiting for me tonight. And I feel better equipped to take on the previous tasks, my kids and anything else that comes my way this Wednesday evening.<br />
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After all, I believe I still owe my son a train ride.<br />
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<br />Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-40169047456457018282012-05-27T11:36:00.000-07:002012-05-27T13:03:45.789-07:00this post is as bipolar as me.Feeling a bit like this these days:<br />
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I just want to be normal in the sense that I want to go through life and feel like I can exist without my medication. However, I cannot.<br />
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The past month has made that clear.<br />
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There was an error in my automatically refilled prescription with my insurance company that makes me fill through them. Which means I missed my meds for over a month. It only took about 700 phone calls and three weeks for them to fix it- not a suitable amount of time for someone who relies on her medication to function normally. Don't worry- I let them know as much.<br />
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While my doctor has told me that I should start feeling the drug work in my body (more so, my brain) in about 2 weeks, I have found it takes me about 4 weeks to feel "normal" again and usually a full 6 to feel like all is well. However, in the past, I did not really feel like this dose was enough.<br />
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I have been taking my medication again for 4 weeks. Yet, my mind is still glass half empty in every regard and the world seems a cruel place. I just want to be able to be happy without popping a pill. Sure, I have my moments of manic happiness that comes along with this crazy bi-polar crap, but even those moments feel out of control and chaotic. After doing some research I have found that for my needs, I am actually on a really low dosage and I really feel that it needs to be upped.<br />
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Matt also changed jobs which means our insurance is changing and so for financial purposes, it makes more sense to go see the doctor once our insurance changes (June 1st). I am still taking the dose prescribed and will continue to until seeing the doctor. I am just so sick of feeling yucky about everything. It sure is amazing that one tiny little pill (or a few) can change so much of your brain chemistry for the better.<br />
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She would sometimes flat out refuse, and I would get so mad. "You only have to drive me to-<b>insert friends name</b>- house!" I did not see the problem.<br />
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I have been driving Mason to his school in our old district (a 30 minute drive) for 6 months. That with making sure the husband gets to and from work, and a 4 year old in preschool 2 days a week in addition to all our errands and activities means we are in the car SO MUCH.<br />
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Now that I am a chauffeur at least 5 days a week, I totally understand.<br />
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Sorry Mom.<br />
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As I drove home from my school, I had that familiar feeling. </div>
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I wanted to talk to one person. My Mama. BUT I CAN'T.</div>
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DAMNIT, I CAN'T. </div>
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That's the thing no one tells you about grief- it doesn't just hit you in the sad times. It hits you in the happy ones too. In the perfect moments where life is going great- I want to share it with her. </div>
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Frankly, it freaking sucks that I can't. </div>
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I miss my best friend. </div>
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I wish I could wrap this up with a pretty little bow but that can't happen either. </div>
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There is no way to make it hurt less.</div>
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I feel lucky that I had her beautiful soul in my life for 17 years, thankful for all the amazing memories, and pissed as hell that I do not get to make any more with her. </div>Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-6197648846665365592012-05-14T10:48:00.002-07:002012-05-14T10:54:44.724-07:00Well, hello ME.For the first time in 8 years, there are no longer babies in my house. My youngest (Theo) will be 3 in August and is becoming more independent and self-reliant everyday.<br />
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I mean, the 4 year old still occasionally poops on the floor and it's tantrum city around here with Mr. Theo the Attitude. Life isn't EASY, it's just changing.<br />
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My children can now play without my assistance for 30 to 45 minutes at a time. They can sit quietly and look at books and make it through an entire kids movie. I find I am getting more and more of my time back. Part of me wants to grab ahold of the newfound freedom and embrace it! Yet the other part of me is still clinging to my kids needing me because without that, who am I?<br />
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Oh, you mean I actually have time to reflect on things? Think about myself for a little bit? What, what? What is this new thing?<br />
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This has brought with it a huge growth stage. I can no longer hide my identity behind my role as a mother and all the sacrifices my children need, because they are needing less of me. Honestly, it's just not healthy to let myself be consumed by only the needs of others. I need to be Nicole and it's important for my children to see that my identity matters too. As I discover more and more what Nicole needs and what Nicole believes, I am finding myself becoming more confident. I am really figuring out that I can choose the people in my life, and I choose more positivity. I had much negative energy around me recently and it was bringing me down. I used to avoid confrontation and instead would just stay in situations that were not healthy for me. Now I am not afraid of voicing my thoughts about things and I understand that not all people are meant to stay in our lives, and there's nothing wrong with that. Every one who enters teaches us something, right? You learn and you can move on.<br />
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I like what I have been learning. I like my new time to myself.<br />
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<b>Most importantly, I really like the person I am becoming. </b>Nicoolmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16667431954730199732noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160045625334226663.post-5665028213984704772012-05-11T08:24:00.001-07:002012-05-11T08:24:11.459-07:00Love makes the world go round.I watch my two youngest (Will and Theo) play together. They love each other so completely. They play, laugh, sometimes get annoyed with each other and take their space, but always coming back to spend their hours with each other.<br />
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Their newest joy is wrestling. They knock each other down, climb on top of one another, roll over each other, and head butt while giggling the whole time. The protector side of me wants to stop them- someone is bound to get hurt. But I don't. I watch them giggle and bond.<br />
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